V. Yes. We must do conduct Shraddah. We must serve living parents, grand parents, teachers, scholars, faithfully and well. This alone constitutes real Shraddah.
K. Shraddah is done for the deceased parents. Does Shraddah is done ever or anywhere for the living?
V. First think over the meaning attached to the term Pitru (deceased parents). Pitru means protector. The Pitru who is living alone is capable of protecting the other. Only the living can guide their children. Rich with experience, they could part with their worldly knowledge for the benefit of children. Only the living parents could protect their issues completely. Once dead the Pitru ceases to be the Pitru for the reason that it is neither a soul nor a body. When the soul when integrated with the body, the resultant being could be a Pitru. Once this soul –body union is broken could there be a Pitru? If on the other hand, if a soul is treated as Pitru then the soul ceases to be eternal or deathless. In that case the issue of soul being senior to one or to another requires to be settled. Further, we may have to visualize a situation where one soul is born after another. In case you do not agree with this situation then there arises no relation between the soul and Pitru. When such relation does not subsist to whom Shraddah is to be done? Now, everybody agrees that the soul is deathless and hence there could be no age difference either being elder or lower to somebody. Then what is left out is the Body?. This also cannot be called as Pitru. Firstly, when the Body with the soul left is called as corpse. If the body were to be Pitru then the person who manages to bury or cremate the corpse will be blamed of committing a sin. It is no good deed to burn or cremate a Pitru! The fact however is, people consider it as an act of nobility to dispose off the dead body either thru burial or cremation.
As a matter of fact, the biological bond that exists among human beings is relevant and stands confined to this physical world only. Once dead, he or she is nobody. Human beings are born in this world to enjoy the fruits of their Karma. Once born, their mutual relationships begin to occur. If the relationships in the form of mother, father, sister, brother, were to remain intact for ever (i.e. even after their expiry) possibility of marriages between those who were a son, mother, sister, brother in their earlier births becomes a possibility. This is unthinkable for the reason the Soul has nothing to do with the relationships like mother, father etc. Relationships keep taking place only when the body is in union with the soul. Therefore Shraddah could be only for those who are alive.
K: 15 days are earmarked in a year for Shraddah purpose. At one time Shraddah is done for one Pitru and for other at another time. Pitrus visit on Shraddah day. It is said that Pitru s visit with their subtle bodies. They partake food with the Brahmins. If for any reason they cannot come, the food is given to Brahmins so that it reaches them.
V: Pitru is not the name of Atman (soul). Pitru, as already made clear represents the merger entity of body and soul and it is false nay height of indiscretion to say that Pitrus arrive with their subtle bodies to receive the food. Let us for the sake for argument, accept the view that Pitrus would arrive in their subtle bodies. In that case how would they eat without their gross bodies? Is it possible that they take food with the Brahmins? If they were to take foods along with the Brahmins will they take food first? If Brahmins were to take first will it not Pitrus be eating the left over food? If they (Brahmins and Pitrus) were to eat together then both of them are sharing the same food and leftovers. This is condemnable from the hygienic point of view. If Pitrus were to take food first then why feed the Brahmins at all? Why 15 days only is earmarked in a year? Don’t they feel hungry for the rest of the year? Does the food given in the 15days is enough and completely satisfies them for a whole year? Is it ever possible? If considered possible then show a person who is fed for 15 days only and remaining alive for the rest of year? Even among these 15 days the relatives fix only a day. If feeding Brahmins could reach the Pitrus how is it the stomachs of Brahmins are full? If everything were to reach the Pitrus then the Brahmins must be feeling hungry all the time even after their food. How can they feel satiated when the food has reached the Pitrus? Where the Pitrus to whom the Shraddah food is sought to be given reside? Are they healthy or sick? If sick, what is the use of heavy sweets? They require light food and bitter medicine when sick. In fact they become more sickely with heavy food. We should enquire them about this. When nobody knows where the soul resides or where the soul has entered after death, what is the use of giving heavy foods for them thru Brahmins? If they had taken birth as lions or tigers then will Pitrus be satisfied with these sweet dishes? If the Pitru were to arrive from some other yoni (body) then that body should die. Please think over. Supposing a person by the virtue of good and noble deeds had attained Salvation what use is there with these mortal foods? On the hand if the Pitru had been born as a gutter/ dirt worm because of Karma what use is there with these sweet foods? Each specie is having its own taste and preferences. Human food is not pleasing to all animals.
Look! Is it a wise thing to post a letter without writing the address of an addressee? Does the letter have any chance of reaching the concerned? Never. Unaware of where the Pitrus reside, does feeding of the Brahmins with food reach the Pitrus? This is superstition plain and simple. If food could reach somebody by feeding the other then what is the need of taking food while on tour? It is enough that a Brahmin is fed at home and the hunger of the person on tour is satisfied! Could you call this as a wise thing?
Sister! If the Pitru had attained Bliss or Salvation by the virtue of good knowledge backed by good deeds then there is no need whatsoever for conducting Shraddah for him. Even when he takes a rebirth there is no necessity for Shraddah. Even when he had no Salvation and not taken rebirth and remains suspended no Shraddah is needed here. If he had died as a sinner, doing Shraddah for him will not absolve of his sins and he does not get Sadgati or improved status. On the other hand if he had died after doing good deeds he would not be condemned to a lower status or Durgati for want of Shraddah. A Shraddah is immaterial here. Each Soul is destined to get the fruits of his Karma and therefore doing Shraddah for the deceased parents is sheer waste of time, labour, money and above all, it is a self-deception.
K: Sister! You have logically established that there is no need to do Shraddah and what is given to one does not reach the other. O.K. Kindly clarify the matter litter further. A debt-ridden father is survived by his son. The son pays off the debt. Now tell me, whether by this act of his son the soul of the deceased became free from the guilt of debt? The father no longer remained a debtor now since the debts have been cleared by his son. If the son thereby could liberate the soul of his father from the guilt of being died a debtor similarly will not the feast given to the Brahmins has the effect of creating happiness to his father associated with a feast?
V: What is to be borne in mind here is that, the fruits of Karma of the father is not shared by his son and so also the vice versa. The sanskars of good and bad work done by the person leaves impression on his subtle body. These sanskars alone are the determining factors of his Prarabhdha containing the elements of happiness and sorrow. The prarabdha cannot be wiped off without undergoing the experience. It is true, from the point of mundane world that the son has cleared the debts of his father. But how the son could wipe off the sanskars of debt taken and not repaying thereby which had been imprinted on the soul of a debtor (father). The son of course could settle the worldly loan account of his father but could he settle the loan accounts relating to the subtle body of his father? Further by treating that the repayment of loans will have the effect of wiping out the debt related guilt belonging to the soul of the other, a natural question that arises here is, supposing there is a father who had made property thru rightful means, did lot of philanthropy when alive and bequeathed property to his son. Now visualize a situation where his son has squandered away that property and leaves a highly sinful life. He could lead such immoral life because of the property left behind by his father. Now tell me since the son could lead a sinful life on the strength of the money left behind by his father will the son’s sins would reach the soul of the deceased father? No will be the answer. If the sins of the son could not affect the soul of deceased father how the sanskars of the loanee father are wiped out by the act of repayment of loans by his son? The reason why the son had repaid the loan is he is the beneficiary of that loan. When the son could inherit the property associated with the loans taken by his father who else other than son should repay it? The receiver of the benefit (son here) should repay. This is the rule of human society. However this rule is not observed in many countries. There are no joint families in these countries. They take care of their children until the latter acquire the strength to live independently. Once the children become strong to be independent enough, they are separated and relations between them become nominal. Here nobody is indebted to the other. No question of payment/non-payment of Loan arises here. The loanee is alone accountable for the loan taken by him. That the son is an inheritor of the property is the underlying reason why the son should repay the amount borrowed by his father. If there were to be no such rule then there is no reason why the son should repay the amount borrowed by his father. This is only social law, and has no bearing on the spiritual world. Hence to say that the son wipes out the adverse sanskars imprinted on the soul of father has no meaning whatsoever and it is a myth. Who is indebted to whom and in what manner is a thing that rests in realm of knowledge of God. He alone arranges a system where mutual debts accounts are wiped off. In the realm of Creation a thing which is an end to one becomes the means to the other. However it is certain that the fruit of Karma of one person is not shared by the other.
Look! A story goes on Shraddah day. Karna who was donating gold while being in this world got only gold in Heaven. But that did not satisfy his hunger for food and therefore he took 15 days leave from Heaven and came back to the earth and feasted Brahmins. It is only there afterwards he started getting food in Heaven. This story which is popular is 100% false and opposed to law of creation and yet has a message that he reaps what he sows. Since Karna donated food he got the same in Heaven. If the system of Shraddah were to be true then the relatives of Karna should have arranged food for him in Heaven via by throwing a feast to Brahmins in this world!
K: If food is not got by the Pitrus so be it. However what is wrong in providing food in name of parents? At least some Daan (donation) is made under this pretext. At least some merit (punya) is achieved in their memory.
V: It is totally wrong! The ancient wholesome Vedic practices get ruined here. Do you want to know why? Pitru Yagna is one of duties to be performed everyday. Five yagnas i.e. Pitru yagna (honoring the living parents) Devayagna {worship of five elements} Brahmayagna (worship of God) Balivyshwadeva Yagna (helping the poor and needy) and AthithiYagna (honoring the guests) are to be done to the best of ones capacity. This is a Vedic command. Instead of doing these Vedic yagnas and setting apart of 15days in a year and calling it as ancestral fortnight (Pitru Paksha), does it not defame the daily duties? Further, even when done on the day of death of Pitrus on every year all the said faults continue to persist as such.
Even if you examine from the angle of Varnshsrama (Four-fold
Now, about the issues of Daan( Charity) or indulgence in philanthropy. Arranging or offering food for the fully deserving in memory of deceased parents and making donations or Daan is not bad by itself. But please note that doing so under a pretext will not yield good results! This is so because, honest intentions are not involved here and therefore no good imprint is left on the doer soul. Only such deeds are considered meritorious which are done prompted by honest thinking, matched by saying and action. Otherwise no merit is earned here. Any work for that matter should be done with sense of dispassion, and honesty. The thought that feeding Brahmins would satisfy the deceased parents is a wrong notion. Further to say that feasting anyway is meritorious also does not point out to honesty. Making donations recklessly to the undeserved would only promote the number of lazy and indolent men. This does no good to society. If feasting and making donations were considered absolutely necessary then why make it only on Shraddah days? And further why to Brahmins only? Should we not help poor, hungry, sick, and blind of whatever might be their caste? Similar to the way we celebrate the festivals of birth anniversaries of great men like Ram and
K: Sister! You have analyzed the issue well. Thanks. Now I would like to ask what the advantage of doing Yagna is. Why people pour Ghee and materials in Fire?
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